Wednesday, February 29, 2012

True Satisfaction

Satisfaction lies in the effort, not in the attainment. Full effort is full victory. 
Satisfaction réside dans l'effort, non pas dans la réalisation. Plein effort est une victoire complète

~Mahatma Gandhi

Sweater: Thrift
Bag: Thrift
Bangle: Off The Wall
Skirt: Forever21

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Tuesday Treasures

Today is a special day, but tomorrow is even more special because it is leap day and I love the 29th of February. It reminds me of my childhood and how it was Pochacco's birthday (a character created by saniro) I always wanted my birthday to be on that day simply because of how exciting it would feel to wait 4 years before you could celebrate your true birthday. Happy birthday to all the leapers, I hope your day is blessed.

If I could I would purchase my entire wardrobe from The clothes are so delicate and feminine. I wrote more about it here

Sunday, February 26, 2012

window shopper

window shopper

Acne polyester shirt
$250 -

Double breasted trench coat
$28 -

Acne cropped capri pants
£210 -

ASOS body bag
$36 -

Oscar de la renta jewelry
$1,150 -

Friends Without Benefits

We spend time with people for a number of reasons. Sometimes we ourselves can't pinpoint a reason but we enjoy the person's company too greatly to feel a need to analyze why we are friends with them (I personally love when I'm happy being around someone but don't know why). Sometimes we know exactly why we let that person in our lives. I had a friend who shared an interest in arts and culture, and became the person I would go see plays with. We didn't have much in common outside of this interest.

There are times however, when a friendship offers no benefits. Spending time with the person doesn't make you feel enthusiastic or happy. You don't come away after seeing or talking to them feeling like your day is improved. You may no longer have things in common. Or you may feel drained at the very idea of even having to spend time with them. It's not that there's anything wrong with you or the person, but the friendship itself is no longer beneficial to you.

Both parties need to find value in a relationship in order for it to be positively maintained. But if your friendship is not offering you anything, you will be less inclined to want to keep that person as your friend.

It's usually a personal feeling if you are in a unbeneficial friendship. You simply feel unhappy or dissatisfied. But sometimes you don't know why. You know you don't want to talk to the person, but you're not sure why. Below are some common reasons for why people pull out of friendships.

  • You no longer value the same things ie. you're more focused on school and your friend wants to party and meet people
  • Your friend offers too much advice rather than just listening ie. you call to vent and it turns into therapy session where your friend tells you what they assume is wrong with you
  • You're bored. ie you always do the same things and talk about the same things and it's become too routine
  • You can't see eye on subjects. ie a simple discussion turns into a debate on whose way thinking is more correct
  • You always feel you have to help 
  • Your friend doesn't support your goals and dreams
  • You went a considerable amount of time without talking and have gotten used to them not being around
You can add value back into a friendship. If you're bored try suggesting new things to do. If you know your friend and you argue over certain topics avoid those subjects, or try seeing things from their perspective. Doing this will give you some new insight. But if your frienship offers you very little and you don't see any way to feel happy in it then you may have to let it go. If something isn't adding positively to your life, it really has no business being there.

Friday, February 24, 2012

A Stylish Soul

 When I shop it isn't to be an icon of beauty, or wow passer byers. I simply don't care about a lot of worldly goods other people do. I like simplicity. I'm more found of sun sets than gem stones.

I live in the world, yes. I go out and do what other girls do. I like things, looking at things, buying things, but I don't seek a deep connection with these things.

I don't want to be first in line for any gadget. I don't feel like a better person if people approve of the stuff I own. It's just stuff. My clothes, shoes, bag are just stuff. I'm starting to feel like I have too much stuff.

Yet I keep shopping.

What is the reason for this? It's what humans do I guess. But it's not what spirits do.

It's the spirit part of me that I value the most. That is what I want to look good. If I am too be really beautiful, truly stylish, then I should think more of the spirit than the body.

The spirit isn't dressed in fine jewels, but fine feelings such as peace, love and humility. The spirit doesn't seek out the latest trends, but instead the balance and oneness felt by giving yourself to everything beyond earthly desire.

I don't value my skirts; they don't bring peace or joy. I value my soul. I value God. I value what no shop on earth can sell  me.

xox thank you for stopping by

Skirt: Yesstyle
Top: Thirtstore
Gloves: Gift
Bag: Aldo

Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Moments of my day Feb 22

You wake up, thinking the day will be like any other and suddenly something happens to change winning a contest. Mid morning, I recieved a message notifying me that I was the winner of a contest held by a youtube  member. I'm never lucky in contests, so I was more than excited when I found out I won.

It's amazing how winning something, having something good happen to you, makes the whole day sit on an optimistic and postive note. I felt lucky throughout the day.

Simply being to able wakup this morning with little pain, a roof over my head and a family makes me lucky or rather blessed, but we so often take these things for granted. I was more excited about winning something. Because for that moment it was as if fate chose me instead of anyone else. But fate chose me all day long, all month long.

 I'm still here, while other are not. I have friends and a family, while others don't, and I am safe, while many others are praying to be rescued.

We forget the mundane are the significant things in our life; the things that we assume are natural and everyday, like checking text messages (which is not at all mundane since in order to do so you must have a cell phone and that is a luxury in itself). Even if I had not won the contest I still would be considered a very lucky girl.

{Sorry I do not have a pic of my day but I thank you for reading xox}

Wandering and wondering

I took a long walk down a busy street, letting faces pass without looking. I let the noises raid my inner and took in the scents of city life. Wandering and wondering how the world became this way; it's so mechanical. Even me, walking down these paved cemented lanes am robotically fixated on getting to my destination. I then remember I have no real destination. I'm simply walking. I'm walking because everyone else around me is walking and I make the assumption that they're going somewhere so I too pretend my life is important enough to need me to meet some destination. But what if they're like me-- going nowhere--just trying to look busy and failing to look around them at all the life that is waiting to be discovered among the mechanical mayham.

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Tuesday Treasures

Spring time feels so near. The warmth and changes spring brings, makes all my winter blues melt away. I cannot wait to wear pretty spring dresses, and flats instead of boots. 

Le printemps se sent si proche. La chaleur et les changements printemps apporte, rend tous les bleus mon hiver fondre. Je ne peux pas attendre pour porter des robes de printemps joli, et des chaussures plutôt que des bottes.

ALDO Mouret - Handheld Bags


Renewed vintage carnelian flower SILVER bouquet brooch

Dappled Sea Blouse



Monday, February 20, 2012

Pleased to eat you

Cora's 1990's Harvest

Brunch has to be one of my favorite meals. You can eat anything for brunch--fruit, icecream, toast, cinnamon buns, anything really. If I had it my way, I'd eat brunch everyday. But every weekend is good enough for now, which is what my friend and I have decided. Until we have tried everything on the menu of Chez Cora, we are pigging out on bacon, toast and mountains of fruit along with whatever else they have to offer. The 1990's Harvest gets two thumbs up from me. It comes with a heap of fruits, eggs, two cinnamon-raisin brioche dipped in French toast batter and bacon. It is a lot of food, but it isn't greasy so you feel pleasantly full instead greasy full.

Eggs Ben et Dictine
Above is my friend's meal. I didn't try it but she loved every bite of it.

Saturday, February 18, 2012

Lacquer Lace Feathered Dress with Belt

The work and detail that went into this dress makes it seem more like a piece of art than a fashion item. There are hand-embroidered 3 dimensional flowers, real Swarovski crystal, and ostrich feathers. It is simply beautiful (though very expensive).

Le travail et le dètail est comme l'art! Il a brodè de fleurs, Swarovski crystals, et de plumes d'autruche.

Friday, February 17, 2012

Les étoiles

The stars are my friends
The moon is my lover
The sea tells my tales
In a soft dreamy whisper
The earth knows my secrets 
It keeps them burried well
The rain owns my heart
Our love is unrevealed

Adelaide Love

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Moments of my day February 15

 Ever wakeup knowing you're going to have a bad day, or least not a good one. That is how I felt when I woke up. I just didn't feel any enthusiasm for the day. I decided to shake off this feeling because I refused to give into a pessimistic attitude.
One of the reasons why I knew I wasn't going like the day was because I had to visit the denist and that always ruins my day. The trip there is unpleasant; the experience is unpleasnat; the feeling of walking out of there with a giant bill guessed it...unpleasant.

To brighten up the day, I went to buy some left over Valentine's treats. On the top of the list were cupcakes. But the mall I was in didn't have any. Instead, I found myself in a new shop called Zexy Berries. It's I guess a dessert shop that sells chocolate covered fruits. But they also offer cookies and waffles. I've always wanted a waffle place in my city and to find one closer to my home was the best part of my day. I ordered a small one with strawberries and white chocolate. It was exactly what I needed to make the day go right.

I also bought some cookies from Zexy Berries. The service was wonderful and I know I'll be going there often. Sometimes you roll out of bed wishing the whole world would disappear. In those times, look for something, anything, in this big ol' world that makes being here worth it.

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Tuesday Treasures

Happy Valentine's Day lovely. Thank you for visiting my blog.

Bonne Saint Valentin belle. Merci de votre visite sur mon blog

Felted slippers from softest merino wool

These slippers look so cozy. I love the lace. They make them so girly.


Antique Beaded Rose Evening Handbag, Clasp Purse Clutch w/Removable Chain

I love the gothic look of this handbag.

Shy Slogan Lace Tee

I'm not a huge graphic-tee person but this one stood out to me, plus it is lace and I'm a sucker for lace



Happy Valentine's Day

Saying I love you with math

Gif credit: Tumblr

Sunday, February 12, 2012

Lost in a moment

Life is simply a string of moments, some good...some bad. A string of moments that make us who we are and show us what we want. The beauty of life is sharing moments that you will cherish with someone else. My friend Amy is some who I always enjoy making moments of memories with. We have a habit of getting lost--lost in laughter, lost in conversation, lost in the moment.

We also get lost while adventuring around our city, and this of course leads to more memories. The feeling of being lost is usually one that disturbs me. I dislike not knowing where I am or what I'm doing, but when you're with a friend it's no longer the frighting feeling of being lost but instead the exlileration of exploration. We explored shops, explored the streets and paveways of our city and our tastebuds explored new flavors. It was a moment I can easily look back on; one that I don't believe will get lost in the shuffle of my many memories.

Friday, February 10, 2012

How my friend and I saved our friendship

I have a friend that I see once a month. That's it. No more, no less.

Once a month we meet to eat and shop. We talk in between our meet ups, calling and texting regularly to say "how are you" or update if something major happens. But we don't see each other for a month.

It wasn't always like this. In fact, it's safe to say she's the friend I see most. We used to have random meetups each week; she's the friend that will visit me at least every other day when I'm in the hospital and she's the friend that I tend to see for the longest duration-- our hangouts run way over 3hours.

But when she needed her space and when I got more ill, the gaps between seeing one another began to grow. We still contacted each other, but neither of us could commit to a hangout. That happens in life. You see someone all the time and then one day you notice you barely see them at all.

To ensure that we didn't go months without seeing each other, she suggested we spend one day out of each month together. For the entire day it's just us, no double bookings, no squeezing each other in to have a quick catch up, just us for an entire day.

I honestly wish I had a similar setup with all my friends. For one, it's less pressure on both of us. We don't have to see eachother each and every week and think of new things to do, talk about, etc. I like knowing someone has designated a significant amount of time for me, instead of the "1 hour coffee meet-up." Because we talk in between then, we don't generally use the time to "update" each other. Instead, we are in the moment. We enjoy what is happening in the present.

For many, one month without seeing your friend is a long time, but her and I have such close bond that less has become more. 

Thursday, February 9, 2012

Something or Nothing

Do not vacillate or you will be left in between doing something, having something, and being nothing
~African Proverb (Ethiopia)

Ne pas hésiter ou de vous être laissé entre les deux faire quelque chose, ayant quelque chose, et de n'être rien

Moments of my day Feb 8

A youtube follower requested a review of a cleanser I recieved. In order to test how well it actually removed makeup, I made the effort and did my make up (something I rarely do). That was the jist of my day; getting dressed and doing homework in between moments of dancing and napping.

The top and skirt are my new favorite pieces in my wardrobe. I wanted the skirt since last year, but it was always too expensive. Finally however, with a coupon code, the price was a little less extreme. I love all the ways I can play around with it.

The top I originally saw on and thought it would be something a style blogger would own. I don't consider myself a style blogger but when I saw it at H&M I had to have it.

Some days are fun, because you choose to make them that way. Even if you're sick, or busy with obligations, or worrying about something you can still take a small moment out of your day to do something enjoyable.

Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Tuesday Treasures

Greetings fair reader. Is there a feeling of love in your life? Maybe because of Valentine's Day I am thinking of hearts and affection.

Salutations belle lecteur . Yat-il un sentiment d'amour dans votre vie? Peut-être en raison de la Saint-Valentin, je pense cœur et d'affection.

Monday, February 6, 2012

You know more than you think

The about statement is what I frequently tell myself when exam time comes around. Or when I have to face a challenge where my knowledge is both my tool and my fear igniter. I often don't feel I know anything at all. All the knowledge runs out of my head like water going down a tap. When I start to feel anxious that I am lacking in knowledge I tell myself that I do in fact know more than I think I do. Then I study, just to be on the safe side :)

Sunday, February 5, 2012

Spring Dresses: Shapes and Colors

Spring Dresses: Shapes and Colors

Proenza Schouler sheath dress
$2,735 -

Jil Sander zipper dress
£399 -

Tomas Maier shift dress
$895 -

Marni zipper dress
$700 -

DKNY shift dress
$407 -

Oasis dress
$105 -

Topshop pleated dress
£32 -

  This Spring it might be fun to try adding some geometric shapes to the warobe. Looking at the collection above it's almost as if the dresses belong to the same designer and collection. But thay are in fact from different shops and designers and thankfully they also vary in price. I love the grey pleated dress from topshop. The orange band aroudnt the waist and bottom is just the right amount of color to keep the dress from looking dull.

Friday, February 3, 2012

2 weeks to loose a friend?

A friend of mine once said something that I didn't believe at first: It only takes two weeks to loose a friend. 

He meant, if you don't make an effort to contact someone for a full two weeks, you're friendship has changed and chances are they aren't your friend anymore.

I disagreed because I thought of how there are some people that I don't see or talk to for over two weeks but they mean a lot to me.

But one day I noticed something...all the people I didn't talk to for more than two weeks were aquantainces not friends. I contact my friends at least once a week. I have a guy friend who lives very far (another country) but we text, everyday. If more than two days goes by without doing so it feels as if something is off with both of us.

I also noticed that what the guy meant was not that your friends vanish, but that the friendship is tested. If you think about it, 14 days is a long time to go without contacting someone you consider a  close friend. An aquataince may be excused, but not a friend. After 2 weeks it becomes harder to pick up the phone and contact the person. You wonder why they haven't made the effort; you wonder why you haven't. Often one party is avidly trying to stay in touch and the other side is just casually ignoring you (or maybe not so casually). 2 weeks turns into a month and as the days move on you realize, you aren't friends anymore and maybe you never were.

I don't like talking on the phone but I'll text my friends, email them, make a date to see them. If I don't, something is wrong.

Two weeks to loose a friend seems silly, but if you really think about it, unless you had some good reason, would you really want to go more than a few days without talking to someone you care about? Wouldn't you like to know how they are and update them on your own life?

I think in this day, with so many forms of communication, it seems odd that you wouldn't give a quick hello to someone...unless you didn't want to.

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

Show me love February

There is a picnic in my heart. Someone has laid down a feast of love. Underneath the snowy blanket is a pinic blanket with treats like patience, hope, smiles and warm embraces.

This is my February wish: a picnic of love. I dream of boxes of heart shaped memories and melt in my heart kind words to melt away the snow. February is a good a month as any to wish for love. 
I'm not wishing for love between lovers. I want something more substantial than that. I want a love that is so boundless, so seeped in honesty and knowing that it leaves the heart no room for anything else. 

Trench Coat: Gift
Bag: Yesstyle
Short/Leggings: Yesstyle
Boots: Charlotte Russe